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Royal Rabbi

Rabbis and cantors for lifecycle events

Find the right rabbi for your wedding, your child's bar mitzvah, or your family's hardest week.

Royal Rabbi helps Jewish and interfaith families without a synagogue find a rabbi or cantor, with each officiant's ceremonies, positions, languages and fees shown before you meet by video.

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No account. No card. No sales call.

Are you ready for a first conversation with a rabbi or cantor?

Answer sixteen questions about the ceremony, what matters to your family, what to ask and the practical arrangements. See what is already settled, and what to talk about together or ask an officiant next. Runs in your browser. No account, no card, no call.

Planning your ceremony

There are no right answers. Skip any question that does not apply to your family or your event.

The ceremony

Do you know which lifecycle event you are planning, and roughly when?

Do you know where the ceremony will be held, or at least the area?

Have you checked whether your date or time falls on the Sabbath or a festival?

Do you know which languages you would like used in the ceremony?

What matters to your family

Have you talked together about how traditional you would like the ceremony to be?

Do you know what you need an officiant to be open to, such as an interfaith or same-sex ceremony?

Have you talked about which family members or friends you would like to take part, and how?

Have you thought about readings, music or customs you would like to include?

What to ask an officiant

Do you know what you want to ask in the video meeting to judge the fit?

Will you ask how they prepare with you before the ceremony?

Will you ask whether readings, blessings or wording can be adapted for your family?

Will you ask what documents they can provide or sign, if your event needs any?

Practical arrangements

Do you have a range in mind for the officiant's fee?

Will you ask what the fee includes, such as preparation, travel and the ceremony itself?

Have you agreed who in the family will be the officiant's main contact?

Do you know what the officiant will need from you beforehand, such as names or family details?

Answer the questions to see your score. It updates as you go.

Method: yes counts a question in full, partly counts half and no counts nothing. Questions are weighted from one to three by how much they shape a first conversation with an officiant, and the score is the weighted share out of a hundred. Unanswered questions are left out, so skip any that do not apply.

Find an officiant who fits, and book directly

Royal Rabbi is a marketplace of rabbis and cantors with real profiles, open positions on interfaith and same-sex ceremonies, and direct booking.

  • Real officiant profiles

    Rabbis and cantors list their denomination, the ceremonies they perform, languages, travel radius, fees and availability.

  • Positions stated openly

    Each officiant states their position on interfaith and same-sex ceremonies openly, so nobody has to ask an uncomfortable question.

  • A video meeting first

    A video meeting is arranged before booking, because fit matters enormously for a ceremony like this.

  • Book directly

    Families search, read the profiles and book the officiant directly.

  • An urgent pathway for funerals

    Funerals have an urgent pathway with a response within two hours, and funeral bookings never carry a fee.

  • Planning resources and texts

    Ceremony planning resources and text options are included, alongside a free guide to each lifecycle event.

The problem

A large number of Jewish families are not synagogue members. When a wedding, a bar or bat mitzvah, a baby naming or a funeral arrives, they have no rabbi to call and nowhere to start.

Synagogues serve their members first, so calls go unanswered and families end up with whoever is available. Interfaith couples face another barrier, since not every rabbi will officiate, and asking is awkward and repeatedly disappointing.

Who it is for

  • Families without a synagogue

    Jewish families across North America and the UK who are not synagogue members and have no rabbi to call when a lifecycle event arrives.

  • Interfaith couples

    Couples who need to know which rabbis will officiate an interfaith ceremony, without asking rabbi after rabbi.

  • Rabbis and cantors

    Officiants who want to list their ceremonies, positions, fees and availability, and choose between a monthly fee or a percentage of bookings.

How it works

Royal Rabbi, from the first step to the result.

  1. 01

    Search for an officiant

    Profiles show denomination, ceremonies, positions on interfaith and same-sex ceremonies, languages, travel radius, fees and availability.

  2. 02

    Meet by video

    A video meeting is arranged first, so you can judge the fit.

  3. 03

    Book directly

    Book the officiant directly, with planning resources and text options to prepare the ceremony.

  4. 04

    For a funeral, use the urgent pathway

    A response within two hours, and no booking fee.

Questions people actually ask

Do we need to be synagogue members?

No. Royal Rabbi is particularly for families who are not synagogue members and have no rabbi to call.

Will the rabbi officiate an interfaith ceremony?

Each profile states the officiant's position on interfaith and same-sex ceremonies openly, so you can see before you ask.

Which ceremonies are covered?

Lifecycle events including weddings, bar and bat mitzvahs, baby namings and funerals. Each officiant lists the ceremonies they perform.

What if we need a rabbi for a funeral urgently?

Use the urgent pathway for funerals, which has a response within two hours. Funeral bookings never carry a fee.

Can we meet the officiant before booking?

Yes. A video meeting is arranged first, because fit matters enormously.

What does it cost families?

Nothing to use Royal Rabbi, which is free for families. Officiants list their own fees on their profiles.

How do officiants pay?

Officiants choose between 29 dollars a month for a profile or 8 percent of booking value. Funeral bookings never carry a fee.

Is there a guide to what happens at each event?

Yes. A free guide for each lifecycle event covers what actually happens, what it costs, what to ask an officiant, and the options for interfaith and non-traditional families.

Why should I trust the officiant conversation check?

Your answers stay in your browser, and nothing about your choices is judged: there are no right answers, only things to settle or ask. For a funeral, skip this and use the urgent pathway, which responds within two hours.

Pricing

Free for families. Officiants choose a monthly profile fee or a percentage of bookings, and funerals never carry a fee.

Families

Search, meet and book an officiant directly.

Freeto search and book
  • Open positions on interfaith ceremonies
  • Urgent funeral pathway
  • Lifecycle event guides
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Officiant profile

A listed profile for a rabbi or cantor.

$29per month
  • Denomination, ceremonies and positions
  • Languages, travel radius and fees
  • Availability
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Per booking

The alternative to a monthly fee, at the officiant's choice.

8%of booking value
  • No fee on funeral bookings
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Prices in USD. Officiants choose the monthly fee or the booking percentage. Funeral bookings never carry a fee.

Are you ready for a first conversation with a rabbi or cantor?

Answer sixteen questions about the ceremony, what matters to your family, what to ask and the practical arrangements. See what is already settled, and what to talk about together or ask an officiant next. Runs in your browser. No account, no card, no call.

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